So I have had this little problem my whole life, but only recently noticed it as I got older. 

I remember there was this one girl that I went to grad school with. She would always stare at me. 

I tried to be nice, I tried to make small talk, but in the beginning she would ignore me. 

Anyway, she sat like four row in front of me, but would spend a good part of class (both before and sometimes during class) and just stare at me. Having anyone stare me for so long…

You don't know how many times I've heard women say this statement: "I really like my butt, so I'm scared about losing weight", or "I really like my breasts, and I'm afraid that I'll lose them if I work out too much." I am aware that curves are "in style" (and have been in style for a while), but many women are fooling themselves into thinking that they will lose their curves by incorporating fitness into their everyday lifestyle. If you already have a sizeable chest and/or butt, you can…

I'm really excited about how my fitness is coming along. My body feels lighter, a lot tighter, and much more toned (my waist in particular looks smaller). I have resumed taking spinning and cardio-kickboxing classes, which have pushed me intensely to take my fitness to the next level. I've been doing spinning around 3 times a week, and have resumed cardio kickboxing last week (I aim to continue doing that 1-2 times a week). In addition to the gym, I am continuing with my pilates regimen at…

1- I love this stuff. I have been using it for about a year. I meant to get the pillow spray, but accidently got this instead. So happy I did! I recommend to to anyone who have a hard time falling asleep. Even if you don't have a hard time falling asleep. A couple of sprays after a night warm shower will send into a nice deep slumber. 

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In order to fully embrace and incorporate a healthy hair care regimen for yourself, it is important to understand that products as well as technique are two factors that can make or break your regimen. For example, if you have great products but you improperly comb through your hair or don't know how to…

Spring is a great time to renew your wardrobe, and add some new zest to your daily fashion. Why not indulge in some of hot new trends of the season? Here are some items to consider:

1) Bold colors:

If you are a classic color girl and only like to wear black, white,…

I want to drop a word of spiritual encouragement to all my fellow sisters in Christ! I think as a single lady in this day and time it is important that we DON'T take or perceive being single as a punishment. However, that we use this time to develop a deep and divine relationship with our heavenly bridegroom Jesus the Christ. I think so many times we become so thirsty for a relationship that we began to torment and pity ourselves into deep dark depressions. We sit and prey on every male that…

Written by: Kwan Stafford

Different Ways to Straighten Your Tresses

For generations, women have…

I can honestly say that it is not always easy figuring out whether a guy is a perfect fit for you. Many people present their best representations of self to the table upfront, and show their true selves later down the road. That said, Kwan (my partner) and I felt strongly about each other at the beginning of our…

People are often unreasonable, illogical and self centered; Forgive them anyway. If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives; Be kind anyway. If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies; Succeed anyway. If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you; Be honest and frank anyway. What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight; Build anyway. If you find serenity and…

(Originally posted on the old "Cafe Belle Blog" on Feb. 21, 2011)

I'll never forget when my friend and I went bathing suit shopping at the mall during my teen years. I hadn't yet fully embraced the size of my bust, but I figured that any bathing suit would work even though new curves were present that didn't exist before. Well, that didn't…

We are living in a world where trust is a hard thing to come by. Racial and cultural stereotypes shape people's perception of others before meeting them, and life's situations can make us very weary about seeing the good in others if we have been hurt by those that we've trusted over time. 

If you are someone…

I'll never forget when my friend and I went bathing suit shopping at the mall during my teen years. I hadn't yet fully embraced the size of my bust, but I figured that any bathing suit would work even though new curves were present that didn't exist before. Well, that didn't work out so well. I tried on my first bikini and walked out of the dressing room feeling so confident that my friend would say, "wow, you look hot!" Instead, I…

Hi Ladies,



I thought I would explain to you guys what I'm all about.

I have been a stylist for 35 years (WOW) and the owner of Hair's Talent for 26 years. What I love to do and do very well is HAIR!!

Notice I didn't say running a business. LOL . Sadly, that's the problem with many people. They have a passion for their craft. They think opening a business is what they want but it ends up dragging them down. Unfortunately, they end up loosing the passion for what they…

Its not enough to feel like a woman...If a Woman feels like a Lady and is able to celebrate herself, she will attract into her life people who reflect her own..

Name it (Believe), Claim it (Faith), Obtain it (Work).

“Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life’s about creating…

When it comes to a black woman's hair, an unspoken social discourse provides instruction as to how to behave around it. Justin Bieber didn't really think about that discourse (or was most likely aware of it) when this happened at this year's Grammy Awards:

There is…

I have quite a number of single friends (in their late 20s/early 30s), and I often hear about how difficult it is to be single in today's world. A lot of them want to be in relationships, but they don't know why they are having difficulties landing the perfect guy. Some of them don't bother date but talk…