It is rare that I would actually recommend that couples break up in order to solve their problems. Unfortunately there are a few reasons that I believe you should let an unhealthy relationship go.  My reason for this is that relationships, while they have their ups and downs, should be healthy for both parties but once they become toxic, no one wins.…

We saw this post today on Facebook and were at a total loss for words. We were partially offended (this type of situation is not limited to the black community)).  Needless to say, it does unfortunately reflect many women who refuse to acknowledge a great man when they see…

There is a lot of buzz today dismissing black men and their ability to be equally-matched partners for black women. The buzz tries to argue that black women should simply forget about black men (as if they are a lost cause) and focus more on dating outside of their race. (I addressed this buzz on Cafe Belle in two recent articles:  "I Am Black, Fabulous and Single -…

On August 6, 2011, Professor Ralph Richard Banks wrote an article in the Wall Street Journal entitled,“An Interracial Fix for Black Marriage", promoting his new book Is Marriage for White People?: How the…

I Am Black, Fabulous and Single – But There Are No Available (And Quality) Black Men!

“Right…” is my response to any woman who makes this kind of statement. Why? Because there are quality black men out there. But you 1) may not have the right attitude to attract them, or 2) you are not in the places where quality black men hang out. You may be thinking, “That’s not true.” Here are some reasons why you may think these points are not true, followed by my…