Hello... my name is...Low Self Esteem

I wasn't born within you... I was planted in you by very negative people who unfortunately had the same disease and passed it on you. I was just a seed...but over the years I began to get watered and fertilized with negative thoughts such as "you are not good enough" and "you are not worthy" and I began to grow inside of you.. While I was inside of you, I decided to bring along a friend of my own called "jealously". Together we consumed your…

I grew up in a single parent home with 3 sisters and 3 brothers... I was the oldest. I won't lie and say we had a great childhood because we didn't...it wasn't the best, but we made the best out of it. My mom wasn't June Cleaver by any stretch of the imagination...lets just say "Madea" is the toned down version of my mother....lol 

When I was a young girl I remember my mother always saying to me "keep your legs closed, a man can find a wet behind anywhere". I had know…

Blessing.. 

Well..well...well... here we go again with another "you are only singling me out because I am black situation"...smh 

When I read and then reread the article in the Huffington Post by Dana Oliver, the first thing that came to mind ..is she upset because she got searched...or is she upset because her hair got messed up?. As we all know... you don't mess with a black woman's hair!!...lol 

She stated in the article "My usual defenses went up as I…

Blessings.. As you all may or may not know... this IceT & Coco situation is all over the internet.. Coco takes pics with male "fan".. IceT gets mad... blah blah blah.. Well since didn't anyone ask... here's MY 2 cents....lol

IMHO.. you get out of a relationship what you put in. I'm quite sure that IceT knew the "type" of woman he married and she also knew the "type of man IceT is. I don't know them personally  (of course) I'm just on the outside looking in as we all are...but the…

It just amazes me how after decades we still have to "apologize" for being black. I feel that society has brainwashed us in a way. They set the trends.. they say who is "accepted" into their exclusive clubs...and every now and again they "award" us for being "us"...but at the same time..they condeem us for being us. They try to tell us what is acceptable.. and many of us try to conform to that standard to be accepted. It's as if you are apologizing for who you are.  Until we learn to accept…

Blessings... Before I get started.. I just want to say the the opinions expressed here are MY own and in no way intended to offend anyone!!!

What the heck is wrong with our black community? Our black society as a whole? Everywhere I look and almost everything I read.. from news articles to blogs..we are destroying our own by being hateful and hurtful. It seems like we can't say or do anything nice for each other. IMO we are the only race that would…

Are you in love, or is it lust? Love and lust are inextricably intertwined. Lust is ground zero for hormones -- it's nature's way of bringing the opposite sexes together to mate. In fact, without lust, it's doubtful that love between a man and a woman would have a chance to prosper at all.



Love is the most ennobling of human emotions -- transcendental, exalted and capable of engendering emotional states that can make the male of the species want "to be a better…

How many times have you seen relationships break up because one of the two parties involved says "he/she" has changed. "They are not the same person I met" or we just "grew apart". They truth is.. that person is EXACTLY who you married or chose to date. Maya Angelu says something that I think is so true "If a person shows you who they are...believe them".

Often times we choose to look at surface of a person instead of taking the time to get to know them. He/she may be…

I have struggled with self esteem issues since my childhood.. as an adult I have learned to love myself, but sometimes those "old feeling" try to creep in. I was going through some of my past writtings and I came across something that I wrote at one of those "dark" times in my life. No matter what you are going through or how bad the situation my be... you have to love yourself!!!

Reflection

Who is that girl looking at me with sadness…