I want to drop a word of spiritual encouragement to all my fellow sisters in Christ! I think as a single lady in this day and time it is important that we DON'T take or perceive being single as a punishment. However, that we use this time to develop a deep and divine relationship with our heavenly bridegroom Jesus the Christ. I think so many times we become so thirsty for a relationship that we began to torment and pity ourselves into deep dark depressions. We sit and prey on every male that we come into contact with contemplating whether or not they could be the one. This is dangerous because you began to see things that don't exist or began to force things that aren't meant to be. Either way in the end YOU are left hurt trying to mend something that never had to be broken

    We don't enjoy this life of freedom and treat ourselves to the finer things in life that might not be as accessible when we are married and start a family. When was the last time you went to a late movie, went out to dinner, or got dressed up just to do some random cruising? I say late night movie because sometimes we go to the afternoon movies in order for couples or other people to NOT see that we're at the movies alone. When was the last time you cooked a gourmet meal for yourself and ate it on your good china instead of paper plates and plastic spoons? It is important to know how to treat yourself and to learn what you like and dislike way before you enter a relationship. It is not a mate's job to help you identify who you are and your wants and needs. That is solely YOUR responsibility. When this occurs you place the burden of "making you happen" on someone and its literally impossible. Think about it...if you can't make yourself happy, how in the world can someone else! Learn to love yourself; flaws and all :-)

In the end you are what you except. As stated before, don't become so thirsty to be in a relationship that you take the first thing offered. You set yourself up for failure when you do this. If you accept mediocrity, then you are simply mediocre. Always know that you have a Father in heaven who thought so highly of you He sacrificed His own son to redeem you. So who are you, or better yet, who are we to sell ourselves so cheaply when you were bought with such a price. With this in mind I hope we will all seek to love ourselves more and to develop unbreakable bond with Jesus the Christ. My mom always told me " you are to be so lost in Christ that the man who wants you would have to seek the face of God to find you". Now that I am older I am holding that to be true more than ever. God bless ladies!