Live Your Most Beautiful Life
If you've ever been through a breakup (or currently going through one), you can relate to this article. There are three types of people that you should hands-down avoid for a while after you break up with a long-term partner. Do I mean avoid them forever? Nope. But you should seriously consider keeping some distance from these types for a few weeks while you distance yourself from the emotional upheaval from the breakup and get your mind right to move forward with your life - and your heart.
1) "Captain Save'em": Who is Captain Save'em? This guy is ready to rescue you from heartbreak and scoop you up into his arms to nurture you, let you know everything is going to be okay, and then hopefully take advantage of you at a weak moment to see if he can turn an emotional situation into some personal fun and excitement. While he doesn't wear an obvious red cape, this fake superhero pretends to be there for you and care for your emotions, but what he truly wants is to get you to trust him enough to the point where he can take advantage of you, and eventually leave you even more heartbroken after he achieved what he was looking for.
How to spot a Captain Save'em: He may be a guy friend that has been coasting on the side, waiting for you to break up or at least have some trouble in your relationship so he can jump in and take the other guy's spot. Or it could be an acquaintance that saw you change your relationship status on Facebook to single and all of a sudden wants to check in on you and hang out. He may also be the guy at the club that finds out that you just broke up with your partner and is ready to "show you a good time" and let you know "what you've been missing out on."
2) The dramatic girlfriend: This girlfriend may be your best friend, but you may need to keep some distance for a few days or weeks while you heal up your heart and your emotions if she is overly dramatic and can heat up your emotions when she finds out about your breakup. If she is the type of person to immediately start telling you why she thought all along that he was "no good", or how you messed up, or simply make you feel worse emotionally by telling you things that simply makes your heart sting, let your friend know that you simply need time to yourself.
3) Your ex-partner's friends and family: You may have grown close to your new ex's friends and family, but you may want to avoid them for a while so you can heal and distance yourself from his "world" if you truly want to let go. The last thing you need to know while your heart is healing is what he is doing for fun, who he is hanging out with, or overanalyzing every little thing that he does in his "post-you" life. Consider doing some "editing" to your Facebook friends list, or simply editing notification permissions from his friends so you are not kept in the loop about all of their activities.
If you are currently going through a breakup, just know that your heart will heal and you can move on and let go of the past. By avoiding situations that bring you back to the past or take advantage of your vulnerability at this time, you'll be able to make an easier transition into the present, and eventually into the future.
-Written by: Cafe Belle's Relationship Barista